Boy it is sure tempting to say being loving ‘cause that is the answer most of us would prefer to admit to and yet is it what we really do? I must confess I often err on the side of being right much to my own chagrin.
What I d know though is that when folks are on their deathbed they are not keeping score in a right or wrong way. I have never heard anyone say ‘I am so happy I was most often right in fights.” I have heard most people lamenting the fact that they were not loving enough. I have often heard people regretting the fact they had not appreciated their loved one enough. And I have listened to folks regretting deeply how they missed opportunities to put their loved one’s needs ahead of their own.
People most often notice, as they are preparing for their final breath, that they made the small and insignificant things major issues in life – being right was most common. In hindsight the important things in life got taken for granted and were seldom appreciated. If they had a do over they would switch the emphasis without hesitation. They would put compassion, love, respect, appreciation, and gratitude miles ahead of being right.
So let us all, myself included, take a lesson from those who have predeceased us. Lets put compassion, love, respect, appreciation, and gratitude first well above being right.
After all, being right does have a cost to it.