So many ghosts are here. My mom in the kitchen, Dad chopping wood. Mark and me—the children we used to be. As I sit on the bed where mom and dad slept, I hear the giggling of the little brother and sister in the bedroom. I realize that my grief for Mark was interrupted by the moving, diagnosis, and difficult dying of my aunt. I had to put … [Read more...]
The Double -Whammy of Grief During COVID-19
It is challenging at the best of times to deal with all the grief associated with the death of a loved one. It is doubly so during this health crisis. Here are some of the reasons why; Our loved one may have died alone.The cremation or burial could not be done as we planned because of social distancing.We have to delay gathering together in person to grieve.It was more … [Read more...]
When Funerals Can’t Happen ‘Normally’
During this time of crisis and challenge brought to us by Covid-19 change is forced upon us whether we like it or not. It is especially true when it comes to end of life ceremonies and celebrations. Everything has changed without our permission. We all likely have very understandable emotional responses to our usual ways of saying good-bye not being available to us during this … [Read more...]
Dying, Death, and After Death for the Whole Person – Mind, Body, Emotions, and Spirit
Over the past five years of my involvement with dying, death, and grief I have been blessed to also grow and evolve personally. I have had numerous experiences since taking the plunge into the taboo and forbidden world of death that have enriched my life and informed my ability to support others through this important time of end of life. One such … [Read more...]
Holding Space – Nine Simple Tips
Holding space is one of those often-overused terms we take for granted, yet it is a real skill to be able to do so! It is not exclusive to professionals whether they be facilitators, coaches, or care providers. Holding space is a practice we can each learn and then provide for our partners, children, friends, and neighbors. These skills of holding space will be much needed … [Read more...]