I remember years ago when I was taking a hospice training course the instructor was taking about maintaining professional distance – a concept I could not get through the thick skull. I understood the reasons behind this self-protection stance and I am in alignment with being viagra online usa professional. However, it was the distant thing that I disagreed with – it just didn’t feel right somehow.
Emotional and caregiver burnout are real things, so I do understand why we were encouraged to ‘protect’ ourselves by being professionally distant and yet for me it was and still is a false solution that doesn’t work for the care provider nor the care receiver.
More importantly and very simply it is just not possible to do! Let me tell you why.
Dying and death is a very intimate and personal experience that fully involves our mind, body, emotions, and spirit. These four components that form the dynamic called ‘me’ are an interdependent collection of being-nesses that affect each other instantaneously and constantly. Often times the interacting affects happen so quickly we are totally unconscious of what IS going on within us.. That is until we become grumpy, intolerant, resentful, and burned out.
Yes, it is true that mentally we can adopt this professional distance thing. We can pretend we are unaffected by what our emotions feel; how our body naturally responds; how our spirit intuits, and simply go about our day in this professional and distant way. It is a learnt skill however, that over times fails to deliver the protection it is intended to provide. It is a skill set that eventually leads to our leaving a job we once dearly loved. We cannot hold all the inputs out just look at the Self-Care Challenge Wheel below.
We need to accept that we are full and sensitive beings that DO respond to dying and death with natural and important grief. We need to acknowledge the facts that we DO react mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. We must learn to take care of these separate yet intertwined aspects of ourselves. We need to develop self-care habits that refresh us mentally, uplift us emotionally, invigorate us physically and inspire us spiritually.
Check out my website – we need to learn to be Alive In Death.