We may often be led to believe that there is a time limit on how long our grief will go on. These hints may be subtle and come in the form of what may appear to be innocent questions.
“Oh are you still grieving?”
“I thought you would be done with all that by now.”
“ Have you seen you doctor yet? This grief of yours seems to be dragging out.”
As a client of mine is beautifully demonstrating her grief is taking its own unique time and is being expressed in its own original way. Art, painting out her grief, is Luba’s way and it is working for her! Have a look at her recent painting, third in a series called Pain Has No Color.
She is taking her time and honoring her way of expressing her grief in ways that are meaningful and healthy for her.
It is important for us all to really understand and accept that the healthy expression of grief is an individual, unique, personal, and intimate process unlike the process of any one else.