I have recently been working with young men struggling in their relationships, no surprise from time to time I still loose my own way! What I have noticed though is that many younger men put extreme importance on their relationships, on having one, and having it be a sole source of happiness and pleasure for them and their partner. Often these amazing young men loose a sense of themselves and their passion or purpose in life as they throw themselves head-long into “the relationship of their dreams” at all costs, not even knowing what those costs may be.
The cost is many-fold as I have seen and experienced personally. The imminent loss of the very relationship they sold out for, a loss of self-respect, and a loss of purpose and passion – the very thing that women find attractive and men are inspired by. When a young man sells out and puts a relationship ahead of what fires up his heart he is immediately setting himself and the relationship up to fail.
Relationship is important and it is also not the savior. More than half (50%) of all North American marriages end in divorce after an average of thirteen years of relationship. It is a damn coin toss, unless of course…
A man is up to something.
A man with purpose and commitment, is not only attractive, he is also very trustworthy. A man on purpose and committed in a loving relationship is almost unstoppable, the two do co-exist beautifully.
My advice to young men…
Don’t fret about relationship, get up to something that will set your heart on fire.
What must you do before you die?
What will your legacy be?
What will set your heart free?
While you are doing that keep your heart open, you never know who you may attract when you are squarely focused on your passion.