In our death denying, grief adverse culture we often delude ourselves into believing our grief will just go away. Others encourage us, often they say for our own good, to get over it, to move forward, or to suck it up. So we do our level best to get back to normal – quickly. We find ways to hide our grief from the light of day.
However, we can’t really hide it, it shows up physically in many way letting us know we still have some grief to express. Here are some of the signs our body uses to remind us we really can’t run from grief.
Some of the signs our body can give us are:
- Fatigue, tiredness and exhaustion sometimes overwhelmingly so
- Feelings of anxiousness perhaps even anxiety attacks
- Breathing maybe shallow or difficult
- Unable to sit still or a feeling of restlessness
- Body aches and pains; headaches, backache, neck or chest pain
- A change in eating habits, either a loss of appetite or comfort eating
- Fear of sleeping or a hard time failing asleep
- Distracted, lack of focus or difficulty concentrating
My recommendation – Listen to your body!
If you have experienced the death of a family member or friend or you have lost a job or gone through a divorce and you are noticing several or many of the above signs you might want to have a close look at your grief process. Check to see whether or not you have any leftover, unexpressed grief hanging around in your body. You will usually notice held back grief at familiar place, times, and events.
You may want to check with a person like a grief counselor, a hospice society, or me. Sometimes we do need support in processing our grief in a full, healthy and complete way. It is a sign of wisdom and courage to ask for help when it comes to working through an important process like grieving.