I was remembering the late Stephen Covey’s teaching of beginning with the end in mind. It came up while I was working with a client the other day. We were talking about rituals and urns and that sort of end of life stuff not a lot of us wish to chat about. We were talking about how death can have a real impact on our life’s journey if only were we to spend more time accepting … [Read more...]
If There Is Healing, There Can Be No Blame
I have noticed a correlation over my years working with dying, death and grief that when healing takes place there is no blame. Conversely when blame is present there is no room for healing. Blame by the way also includes self blame or guilt. Blame seems to be this tool we unconsciously use to avoid dipping deeply into our natural and oh so raw feelings of sadness and … [Read more...]
Grief – A Breathtaking Teacher
Here is a piece of prose I spoke at the recently heldSwan Song Festival on Zoom yesterday October 17th, 2020 @ 7:00pm. Six others also spoke passionately about the need to redefine grief.... Poem To A Fellow Student By the Late Great Leonard CohenI thought about you a lot. I still do. You sat still, your hands clasped on your lap like a school child. you … [Read more...]
Stop!
Winning at All Costs is Too Expensive Whether it is the corporate race for profit and market share or the political fight to win power at all costs, we must stop, take a breath, and have a good look at what our thirst to win is truly costing the planet. This survival thing we have going on will ultimately be our undoing. The profit levels must survive, our market … [Read more...]
Pets are Family Too!
I was speaking with a dear friend today about a tough decision she was facing. Her fifteen-year old cat was struggling with illness and ageing. Despite all her loving efforts to help her it just seemed like all she was doing was prolonging life and the suffering of her dear fury family member. The conversation ranged from who was she keeping the cat alive for, how to make … [Read more...]