Whether it is the ‘death’ of a job; a relationship; a car; a pet; a friend; or a family member, don’t waste it!
I have come to know that each death we experience comes with fertilizer as well as with sorrow and sadness. Often we need to get through some of the grief we feel before we can get a sense of the fertilizer the death has left behind for us. No matter the depth of our sorrow the fertilizer is always there, we just need time to find it.
“Fertilizer?” you may ask.
“Yep, fertilizer!” I say.
When we have expressed the immediate and intense initial grief we feel as a result of any major loss we could then ask a question like; “What has this loss taught me about how I could live my life from here on out?” or “What inspiration can I take from how my loved one lived?” or “What quality of their life to I admire?”
Any question like those listed above will help you dig beneath the death, beneath the grief to the fertile lesson that the loss has left for you to grow through, to inspire you to live an even more full and passionate life? To have you bloom into the amazing One you are.
“Death is good for me?” really you may wonder.
Yes it is. Death will remind you that you are alive, and if you approach death from the ‘right’ attitude it will absolutely nourish your future grow and sense of being alive. All we have to do is drop the idea that death is the grim reaper, that it is a failure, that somehow death is wrong. I am not saying for a moment that suffering an impactful loss is sweet and easy, not at all, I am saying though we can learn to use death as an inspiration. We can be taught by death if we choose and when the time is right.
The deaths I have experienced in my own family, my sister Jody, brother Peter, and father Lloyd were all emotionally challenging and truly sad events and yet I found a way to come to peace with the deaths and to grow as a person by what each death taught me. I have also learned from the death of a relationship and of a job. Each loss as dramatic and sad as they were taught me lots about how I could live even more freely and passionately.
A change in perspective is all that is required – though challenging emotionally death can be a great bit of fertilizer for your future growth and life.