I was chatting with a friend and spiritual colleague of mine the other day. We were chatting about greed and wastefulness and I heard myself saying;
“Yeah we are such a throw away society we even throw away death!”
I know this may sound weird, perhaps even harsh and yet the more I think about it the more it rings true to me, “Lets not waste a death.” We have been trained to see death only as a loss of something; that death somehow diminishes life; that death reduces, takes away, or destroys; that death is only the end of something.
Could there be another side to the jarring fact that something or someone has died? Could death be an inspiration to live life even more fully, more present, and more authentically? Could we approach death as a valuable force of life? Could we create good-bye rituals that remind us of what the loss taught us? Could we change our own behaviour in a way that reflects what our loved one taught us from their deathbed?
Every death maters! To show how it matters we need to create a new habit or ritual that both reminds us of our lost loved one and inspires us to live more fully!
My brother sold his soul to the God of Chemo because he felt in his heart he hadn’t lived his sixty one years as fully as he could have – he wanted five more years so he could live full on. Hearing Peter’s death bed regret and being deeply affected by it I have taken on a daily practice to remind myself to live fully this day just in case in might be my last and to check each evening to see whether I did or not. It helps a lot!
I honor Peter’s death by living my life more fully one day at a time – his death matters to me.
So lets remember shall we that every death matters.